After 3 months of studying and preparing, I finally took the GRE (Graduate Record Examination) a few weeks ago. I am so relieved it’s finally over. I feel like I have my life back. I’ve never been so stressed over anything before, probably because this stress was stretched out over a 3 month period. I had random meltdowns where I couldn’t control my tears or emotions. Even the smallest things like disputes between friends or misplacing my headphones would greatly affect me because all the stress was too much for me to handle.
It’s hard not to stress over a test that can have a huge impact on your life like getting into a school of your choosing. But looking back these past 3 months, it really felt like I wasn’t living. I was miserable hiding my anxiety behind a fake smile. My stress and anxiety levels were probably the highest they’ve ever been. When I’d try to relax and take a break, I wasn’t fully relaxed because the test was still there in the back of my mind, haunting me. I put my passion for music and making covers on hold because I was afraid of the guilt I would feel from not studying and investing my time in something else.
If I could change something about the way I approached studying, it would be to constantly remind myself that it’s just one test. No matter the results, it’s not the end of the world. This one test does not define who I am or the person I will become. I’m so much better than this test and the number score given to me. I wish I could go back in time and take back control over these past 3 months. This ride wasn’t worth all the unnecessary tears, anxiety, and stress. I regret studying and approaching the GRE in this way. It wasn’t healthy for me and it made me extremely unhappy. So my advice to anyone reading this is to remember that your happiness and mental health is more important than any test score and that you are not alone. We’ve all gone through the stress of taking exams before. But tests do not define you or your intelligence. If you do poorly, it’s not the end of the world. Learn from the mistakes you made and approach the situation differently next time. Move forward with optimism and confidence and DO NOT let stress and anxiety take over your life. You’d be surprised with how much stressing out can hold you back from achieve great things, maybe even a great score. When you let fear, stress, and self-doubt take over you, you’re holding yourself back from reaching your full potential. Power over the stress and fear because you are better than that. You are better than numbers and letters given to you on a piece of paper.
Happiness is something I’ve always been struggling to find and was part of the reason I decided to start my fitness journey a little under 2 years ago. I hoped to find my happiness through consistently exercising and eating healthy, since it seemed to be working for all the fitness enthusiasts I followed on social media. Once I indulged in this lifestyle, I realized that happiness is not something you find, it’s something you create. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve always been content with my life and the amazing and supportive people in it. But there have been intense moments of high stress, anxiety, and insecurities.
It began when I started following various fitness instagram accounts and fitness influencers like Katya Henry, Alyssa (Fittlyss), Kayla Itsines, and Emily Skye. Every morning while eating breakfast and every night before going to bed, I would scroll through my feed and read their empowering posts. Their posts slowly gave me motivation to take the next step in changing my attitude towards my life. I decided to make exercise and eating healthy a lifestyle rather than a temporary aberration. Their posts inspired me to take on living a happier and healthier life by creating a lifestyle involving fitness. I’m the only one who has the power to control my life, so I took action. Through this lifestyle my attitude changed and I started to view things in a more optimistic light. My mental health also improved, my strength increased, and I just felt better overall. My confidence skyrocketed and I began to push myself to take on other challenges in life like progressing with my Youtube singing covers, and becoming more proactive in networking in and outside of work.
The feelings and attitude I gained from this lifestyle change truly are some of the greatest feelings and I wanted to share it with others. I wanted to inspire and motivate others like how Katya, Kayla, Alyssa, and Emily did for me! So I created my fitness instagram and, later fitness blog, in hopes to be able to reach out to others and encourage them to create their own happiness instead of chasing it.
I want to create a community of bright and encouraging people full of love and kindness! I want us to all empower and support each other, because there is way too much hate in this world than should be. When I post on my instagram, I’m not trying to show off or make anyone feel bad about themselves. I’m trying to reach out to make others want to get up and do something active with their bodies and life while alongside, keeping track of my own fitness progress. Posting also motivates me to stay consistent and active with my own fitness goals and routines!
Social media has the amazing power to connect people and bring people together, creating communities of literally anything and everything! I’ve made a bunch of inspiring connections through instagram and it’s created so many new friendships for me! So join me in creating a community of like minded people full of smiles and good vibes who have a passion for fitness and creating happiness amongst themselves and others! Let’s go Fit Family!
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I’ve been feeling low about my physique lately because I’m not where I used to be. Not to mention the added stress and anxiety from the small but irritating health issues that have been randomly popping up for me this year. But then a friend helped me realize that you don’t look the same year round. Your body is constantly changing and changes throughout the year. It’s almost impossible for the average person to look the same year round. I was extremely motivated before summer to look my best for the beach and pool parties! During summer I was out and about eating and drinking all the delicious summer foods while vacationing and taking advantage of the good weather. Now that summer’s come to and end, I’ve noticed I’ve lost my tone and gained a little more fat in a few areas. BUT THAT’S OKAY. IT HAPPENS. Most of us are not body builders or bikini competitors who track their macros year round! Your body changes like the seasons and sometimes changes alongside the seasons!! I thank my friend for helping me realize this.
Aside from the obvious factors that contribute to your body changing like physical activity and diet, there are other reasons your body changes that people tend to forget. I’ve listed a couple or them below.
- Hormone Fluctuations
- Stress & Anxiety
- Weather & Environment
- Vacations & Studying Abroad
So if you find yourself wishing that you look and feel like a time in the past.. don’t sweat and don’t be so hard on yourself! You most definitely can get back there if you stay focused and work hard! The important thing is to stay happy and view everything in an optimistic light. If you were there before, you can get there again. Having something to work towards is exciting!
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“You can meet somebody tomorrow who has better intentions for you than someone you’ve known forever. Time means nothing. Character does.”
I came across this quote a few days ago and really like it. For the longest time I’ve been blaming myself for other people’s’ actions and behavior, almost like I had a duty to keep them mature and civil. When I wasn’t successful, it would stress me out and give my anxiety over the thought of losing friendships or connections. In the end, I began to wonder if those connections were even worth it. Was it worth all that time, stress, and effort to hold onto something that wasn’t moving forward? What other people say and do is out of my control. People can say positive things or try to justify themselves, but it means nothing if their actions don’t compliment their words. Actions do speak louder than words. Don’t always put value over how long you’ve known someone. Their character and how they treat you is more valuable. Time is just an add on to the value of a relationship. Character > Time.
Some days I wake up super motivated, ready to take on the day. But other days I wake up sluggish and not motivated to do anything. It’s normal and it happens to everyone! It is okay to be lazy once in awhile and lack motivation. The important thing is you get back on your feet and find the motivation you need to get back on track! Here are a few things I do to stay motivated on days I’m feeling lost.
One thing that drives me the most in terms of staying motivated is the idea of continuously wanting to work towards being a better person, inside and out. I consider this as one of my ongoing goals that usually always keeps me motivated. I’m constantly finding ways to improve myself whether it be in fitness, health, personality, or skill set.
BUT sometimes it doesn’t always work. In that case, I have listed some ways to find motivation again!
- Set Goals: Usually when I have goals in place, I feel more inclined to pursue and work towards them.
- Watch or Read Motivational Videos/Quotes/Articles: This always helps get me in the motivational mood!
- Change up Your Routine: Keep it new and exciting!
- Give Yourself Fun Breaks: To make sure you don’t overwhelm yourself, do something fun as a small break. Go watch a movie, paint, hangout with friends, whatever it is that you enjoy and makes you happy!
- Workout or Do a Physical Activity: It’s crazy what the effects of being active can do for you outside of fitness. This can improve your mood drastically and may motivate you to do other things!
- Listen to Some Pump Up Music: Confident by Demi Lovato always gets me motivated!
- Don’t Be Too Hard on Yourself: Everyone gets lost and loses motivation once in awhile. It is totally normal and okay! “It’s not about how hard you hit, but how well you can take a hard hit and keep moving forward.”
I hope these tips help you find your motivation! Next time you find yourself lacking motivation, don’t sweat. Pick yourself up again and learn from that experience. Be more willing to go the extra mile to get better for next time! What are some of the ways you stay motivated?
Can you believe we’re already half way done with 2016? This year is passing by speedily so, I wanted to reflect on the new years resolutions I made in January and see how much progress I’ve made!
- Gaining (muscle, toning up, happiness): I’ve definitely gained muscle and gotten much stronger than I was last year. I’ve also toned up in my arms and legs, but it’s still an enjoyable work in progress! Happiness is still something I’m constantly struggling to find, but here is what I’ve realized. Life is full of ups and downs. You’re going to have days where you love life and are extremely happy. But you’ll also have days where you feel discouraged and low. I think as long as you don’t lose sight of the bigger picture you will find happiness. After all, it’s not about the destination, it’s about the journey there, right? So fill your life with little exciting events that make you happy but don’t forget to work towards your ultimate goals and aspirations!
- Losing (fat loss, stress, negativity): I’ve leaned out and lost a bunch of fat since last year, so that’s good. Unfortunately, I’ve experienced so much negativity these past few months and it’s been causing me too much unnecessary stress. Moving forward, I’m going to actively make sure it does not bother me. I am going to actively remove the negativity and take back control over my feelings and well being! This is something I need to work on!
- Giving (volunteering, inspiring, motivating): I’ve volunteered once this year. I’m very disappointed with myself in that. I’m going to go sign up for some volunteer opportunities right now! As far as motivating and inspiring goes, I think I’m doing a good job with that by staying consistent with my fitness posts and music covers. My true aspiration in life is to help people by motivating and inspiring them to live a happy and healthy life, to follow their passions, and do what they love. In fact half of the reason I actively post via social media is because I hope to reach out to others and get them to be active in staying fit and healthy and to actively participate in things that they love! Whether it be just a hobby, work, or lifestyle, I want people to join me on this journey of all smiles and good vibes! I want to create a community of bright and encouraging people! =)
Good reflecting! Let’s keep progressing through the rest of this year!
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It’s taken me a while to build up the courage to start blogging and share my thoughts. Finally, I’ve started to blog as a new years resolution. Also thanks to Akansha Agrawal’s post
that gave me that last final push to start blogging. I thought it would be nice to have all my thoughts, projects, and progress on fitness, health, and music in one place not only for anyone who is interested, but also for myself. I find some sort of inner peace when I write out my thoughts. Also tracking my progress on all things fitness keeps me motivated! My true aspiration in life is to help people by motivating and inspiring them to live a happy and healthy life, to follow their passions, and do what they love, so I’ve come up with a list of general resolutions (inspired by WellnessFX) for this year to achieve just that!
- Giving (volunteering, inspiring, motivating)
- Gaining (muscle, toning up, happiness)
- Losing (fat loss, stress, negativity)
I’m very excited to see where this year will take me, especially with my new found hobby of blogging!